When we say yes instead of no to situations that don’t feel good to us, when we react to people negatively because of past experiences, when we stay in situations that are toxic, when our well-meaning actions have negative consequences…we come face to face with a difficult challenge – forgiving ourselves for the blowback that follows.
Why is it so hard to forgive ourselves? A lot of us get ourselves into undesirable situations because we carry guilt and shame from the past and, as a result, we don’t believe we deserve good things in life. We feel like we are inherently bad and don’t deserve to be in positive, healthy, and loving relationships. So, we attract the opposite relationships into our reality.
Once we commit to having a better relationship with ourselves and begin to make the necessary changes (having healthy boundaries, loving from afar, expressing our needs…), our relationships with others and the quality of people we attract will improve drastically. Our point of view will become less self-centered and we will be able to better see the perspective of others. We will finally be capable of forgiving those who hurt us.